Creating a Loving Space

One of my favourite tantric rituals is the creation of the sacred space. Creating a warm and inviting place to share sacred sexuality is a gift I sometimes give, sometimes receive and often share.

If I walk into my bedroom to find that my lover has created a beautiful space filled with my favourite things, I consider it a true gift of love. It is interesting to note that my favourite things are not necessarily her favourite things. I like soft exotic music, she prefers quiet, I love massage oil, she loves feathers and powder, I love lot's of pillows, she prefers a flatter surface. So when I offer her the gift of creating a sacred space, I fill it with the things she loves, just as she does for me.

Creating the space together is also a loving gesture that we often share. Letting your lover know that tonight you're in the mood for body candy or a darker softer room demonstrates the intimacy you share. Being willing to bring in things that your lover desires expresses your gift of worship.

Preparing the sacred space is a very loving gesture and can express things that spontaneous encounters cannot.

Don’t Get Lost in the Sexual Energy

Practicing Tantra can certainly bring two people closer together. As you share sexual energy and merge it with heart’s energy your intimacy and affection for one another grows. I have been fortunate enough to experience this first hand.

Sometimes, however, it can also be beneficial to take a step back from the sexual energy in order to see other facets in a relationship. This step back, whether intentional or forced upon by happenstance, can also allow you to strengthen your love, commitment and friendship.

Using sexual energy to strengthen and expand a relationship is a beautiful thing but this energy is there to serve the relationship and not the other way around. Sometimes taking a step back from the sexual energy can also lead to the discovery of treasure.

Staying in the Moment

I am by nature a planner. I plan everything. So when I first learned about and tried staying in the moment I must admit that I had some difficulty. When engaged in a sexual moment it seemed like I was always anticipating what was to come instead of focussing on what was. Slowly I overcame this and was able to fully stay in the moment, enjoying every delicious instance.

Staying and enjoying the moment can also have a greater sense. As the speed of life increases we sometimes forget to enjoy and appreciate the moment. How often have we missed admiring the beauty of a sunny sky as we rush to work, or truly feel and appreciate the energy in the good-bye hug of a loved-one as we head out the door?

In life and in love we would do better to slow down and appreciate the moment.